The Wheel of Consent: Desire, Empowerment & Choice

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This is an AASECT approved CE course – 8 CE Credits

This course is for: Sex Educators, Counselors, Therapists, Coaches and Bodyworkers.

When you touch [your partner, friend, or client], are you receiving or are you giving? Is there a difference? What happens when you know for sure?

What happens when your client learns to take ‘receiving’ and ‘giving’ apart, so they experience one of them at a time?

This course discusses the Wheel of Consent, which is a model of consent based on (but not requiring) exchanges of touch. The Wheel notes the distinction between the ‘doing’ aspect of the touch dynamic (who is doing) and the ‘gift’ aspect (who it is for).

Once the distinction between those two aspects is clear, the entire touch dynamic becomes clear, which brings ease, sensuality, confidence, self-responsibility and freedom to the interaction. When the dynamics are clear, it becomes apparent how they apply to both touch and non-touch dynamics. Indeed, the application to non-touch dynamics may be of greater import.

This class is experience based. The videos guide you through a series of somatic experiences in which you can ‘feel the difference,’ which then allows you to apply the principles to your client sessions and offer it as a practice for your clients to take home. (Also expect it to affect your personal life.)

You will learn to coach your clients:

  • To notice, value, trust and communicate their needs and desires
  • To notice and be responsible for their boundaries
  • A simple touch practice/game to take home
  • To identify the tendency to go along with what is being done and how to reverse it
  • How to listen for the pull instead of the push when choosing to engage with another
  • To distinguish between requests, offers and invitations to create clear agreements
  • When touching: to gain confidence in their ability to touch and distinguish between touching for the other person’s pleasure and touching for their own pleasure
  • When being touched: noticing they have a choice about how they are being touched and how to choose how they want to be touched

If you are a touch practitioner, you will also improve the quality of your touch, bringing both clarity and heart into your hands, and pass this on to your clients.

BONUS: In addition to the online module, Dr. Martin will offer a monthly Zoom call for all participants of this course at no additional cost (1st Tuesday of every month: San Francisco 1pm; London 9pm; Sydney 6am the following day).

Course Description

This course discusses the Wheel of Consent, which is a model of consent based on (but not requiring) exchanges of touch. The Wheel notes the distinction between the ‘doing’ aspect of the touch dynamic (who is doing) and the ‘gift’ aspect (who it is for). Once the distinction between those two aspects is clear, the entire touch dynamic becomes clear, which brings ease, sensuality, confidence, self-responsibility and freedom to the interaction. When the dynamics are clear, it becomes apparent how they apply to both touch and non-touch dynamics. Indeed, the application to non-touch dynamics may be of greater import.

This class is experience based. The videos guide the practitioner through a series of somatic experiences in which the distinctions become clear. This allows them to apply the principles to their client sessions and offer it as a practice for their clients to take home.

BONUS: In addition to the online module, Dr Martin will offer a monthly Zoom call for all students of this course at no additional cost (1st Tuesday of every month: San Francisco 1pm; London 9pm; Sydney 6am the following day).

Learning Objectives

By the end of this course, participants will be able to:

  1. Distinguish between giving and receiving and clarify ‘who it is for’ in any interaction
  2. Distinguish between the tendency to ‘go along’ with actions versus being able to choose an action based on desire and self-responsibility
  3. De-conflate ‘doing’ and ‘giving’ and discuss the confusion that is created when they are conflated; as well as de-conflate ‘done to’ and ‘receiving’ and discuss the confusion that is created when they are conflated
  4. Create touch exchanges between two people that are clarifying, inspiring and satisfying
  5. Integrate a felt experience of the four quadrants that create the Wheel of Consent – Taking, Allowing, Serving, and Accepting
  6. Evaluate dynamics related to touch that occur in your sessions and how they apply to the Wheel
  7. Apply the 3-Minute Game touch practice with clients as a tool for self-inquiry
  8. Recognize where engagements (with clients or otherwise) are coming from a clear request and agreement (consent) or where they are manipulative, assumptive, confused, or ineffectual (out of consent)
  9. Describe the difference between ‘push’ and ‘pull’ when it comes to choosing an activity
  10. Distinguish between a ‘request’, ‘offer’ and ‘invitation’

Course Outline

The course will be delivered through a series of pre-recorded videos and participants can go through the materials at their own pace.

The course will be divided into five sections:

  1. Introduction: What it’s about, where we are going and definitions (5 videos: 50 min)
  2. The Lessons: Learning to touch (10 videos: 2 hr 10 min)
  3. The Wheel of Consent and the Four Quadrants (11 videos: 3 hr 20 min)
  4. How to play the 3-Minute Game (1 video: 15 min)
  5. An Interview with Dr. Martin: How to apply the Wheel of Consent in professional situations primarily for non-touch practitioners in the sexuality field and including some notes for touch practitioners; how to empower your clients to set boundaries and make choices based on pleasure and self-responsibility (1 video: 1 hr 30 min)

Note: This course meets the requirements of the American Association of Sexuality Educators, Counselors and Therapists (AASECT) and is approved for 8 CE credits. These CE credits may be applied toward AASECT Certification and renewal of certification.

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